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"Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage."

With more than 35 years of experience counseling couples, Gary has found that most marriages suffer due to a lack of preparation and a failure to learn to work together as intimate teammates.

So he put together this practical little book, packed with wisdom and tips that will help many develop the loving, supportive, and mutually beneficial marriage they envision, such as:

What the adequate foundation for a successful marriage truly is
What to expect about the roles and influence of extended family
How to solve disagreements without arguing
How to talk through issues like money, sex, chores, and more
Why couples must learn how to apologize and forgive

Ideal for newly married couples and those considering marriage, the material lends itself to heart-felt, revealing, and critical conversations for relational success.

Read this bookand you'll be prepared for--not surprised by--the challenges of marriage.

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Bonus features include:

Book suggestions and an interactive websites to enhance the couples' experience
"Talking it Over" questions and suggestions to jumpstart conversations over each chapter
Appendix on healthy dating relationships and an accompanying learning exercise

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1 September 2010
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13.34 x 1.19 x 20.32 cm
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0802481833
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GARY CHAPMAN--author, speaker, counselor--has a passion for people and for helping them form lasting relationships. He is the #1 bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages series and director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc. Gary travels the world presenting seminars, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. For more information visit his website at www.5lovelanguages.com.

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Moody Press; New edition (1 September 2010)
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Paperback ‏ : ‎ 176 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0802481833
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0802481832
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 13.34 x 1.19 x 20.32 cm

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Gary Chapman—author, speaker, and counselor—has a passion for people and for helping them form lasting relationships. He is the bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages® series and the director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc. Gary Travels the world presenting seminars, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations.

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The name says it all. Makes so much sense ...

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The name says it all. Makes so much sense.
I will be buying copies to give to all my family for Christmas!!

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Helpful...but certainly not the last book you'll need on healthy relationship

Reviewed in Australia on 1 January 2014

Good tips on things to discuss. But also, I've read others like Men Are From Mars, Superior Man... and in comparison... They all compliment each other. Yet also provide different style of solving conflict. Just depend what's your style and what resonates with you. This book doesn't resonate with me as much as others. Since this book is more about traditional "lets sit down and talk about it" approach. This could go on forever as if there are many personality differences between two of you.

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How do we divide household chores? Agree without arguing? Spend less? Neat vs messy? Forgive?

Reviewed in the United States on 10 March 2022

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Dr. Chapman is the author of the best-selling book, "The Five Love Languages"

WHAT READERS CAN LEARN FROM THIS BOOK

1. Feelings of being "in love" cannot sustain a marriage, since the average life-span of these feelings is about two years. What sustains a marriage is spouses learning to communicate love in the forms that are most received by their partner.

2. We will often develop uncanny similarities to our parents, including their drinking habits, communication patterns, energy levels, and appearance.

3. Resolving marital disagreements without arguing. Truly listening to the other spouse in order to give an adequate summary of his or her perspective. Agreeing to disagree. Learning to compromise.

4. The importance of spouses making effective apologies for wrongdoing. Learning to speak your spouse's language of apology is more effective than just saying you are sorry. The five different ways of apologizing are
1) expressing regret
2) accepting responsibility
3) making restitution
4) genuinely expressing the desire to change your behavior
5) requesting forgiveness.

5. Forgiveness is one's decision to offer grace instead of demanding justice.

6. How spouses can agree on doing which household chores.

7. How spouses can most effectively manage their money, and what common major mistakes to avoid, such as purchasing a home they cannot afford, going out to eat too often, buying new cars, and buying too much alcohol.
How to live on 80% of your income, give 10% to charity, and save 10%.
How couples can agree not to buy something over a certain amount without consulting the other.

8. Resolving common sexual difficulties.
Overcoming the myth that husband and wife must reach climax together.
A husband should spend sufficient time caressing his wife.
A husband participating in household chores will often increase desire in his wife for him.
Spouses should only engage in sexual acts they are both comfortable with.

9. How spouses can develop good relationships with their in-laws, by learning to listen empathetically to them, speaking their particular love languages to them, and alternating holidays with them.

10. Spiritual compatibility in marriage has more to do with what each spouse believes in the way God speaks to them and what He has said.

11. How spouses can live with a partner who has very different habits, including
Morning person vs. Night person
Optimist vs. Pessimist
Neat vs. Messy
Talker vs. Non-talker
Passive vs. Aggressive
Logical thinkers vs. Intuitive person
Organizer vs. Spontaneous person.

12. Having a balanced dating relationship by attending to these areas of growth: Intellectual, Emotional, Social, Spiritual, and Physical.

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Very insightful

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 28 February 2018

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Out of curiosity I purchased this book to understand what qualities I would need if I decided to get married. It has had a positive impact so far and I would recommend it for those who are single and engaged. If you're single, it will act as a blueprint for you to use, and if you're engaged it will help shape some of the areas you may be struggling with. It also recommends other books for you to read to help you to grow together.

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A must read for those couples desiring marriage.

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 6 February 2019

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A great book to read for those considering marriage and that are engaged. It’s best to read with the person you intend to marry. It will bless you and raise topics you probably didn’t think were so important.

It also helps you understand your character more and appreciate those with different character traits - this was my favourite part.

The reflection questions were also great. I would highly recommend this book.

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I found this book so easy to read and helpful.
Although I'm not married or even in a relationship, it proved to be a very informative and realistic book in thinking about what we expect from marriage and why those I've observed from both a professional and personal basis have their struggles and sometimes endings!
A 'must' read for couples and singletons as prep for the reality of commitment to marriage.

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nothing you don't already know

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 16 December 2018

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recommended by a friend but was not aware that this author is in fact a pastor..be advised that all advice in this book is biased towards a religious viewpoint of marriage.

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